Learning to embrace God’s love can be one of our biggest struggles as Christian women. Personally, as someone who grew up in the church, I logically knew that God loved me, yet emotionally I didn’t feel it. I needed to do more than know God loves me—I needed to really feel His love for me. […]

Your True Valentine: Learning to Embrace God’s Love For You

Learning to embrace God’s love can be one of our biggest struggles as Christian women. Personally, as someone who grew up in the church, I logically knew that God loved me, yet emotionally I didn’t feel it. I needed to do more than know God loves me—I needed to really feel His love for me. So how did I get to that place? There were three steps I took that shifted my mindset and helped me to truly embrace God’s love for me, and it will for you too.

Read God’s Love Letter (The Bible)

We have to know God’s Word. I only learned basic scripture while growing up in church. You know, John 3:16, Proverbs 3:5-6, Romans 8:28, The Lord’s Prayer, etc. What I didn’t know was what God’s Word said about His love for me.

Take time to really dig deep in the scriptures about God’s love and what it means. You can get index cards and post-it notes to write down every scripture you find. Then, post those “love notes” in places you would see them easily and regularly- on a mirror, a desk, walls, in a notebook, on the refrigerator; anywhere and everywhere. I did this for weeks, and every time I saw one of those scriptures I recited it out loud until I had memorized each and every one. Whenever you’re confronted with thoughts or lies from Satan that would suggest you aren’t loved, you can speak the Word (truth) and combat that thought or lie. Once those scriptures started getting into my spirit and permeating my mind, I no longer felt lonely.

Express Love through Self-Forgiveness

A large factor that contributes to feeling unloved is the inability to forgive oneself. I was so bound by the shame of things that I had done or things that happened to me in the past that I didn’t actually believe I was deserving of the love of God. Ladies, remember that guilt and shame are not of God. God our Father convicts us, but he does not condemn us.

Conviction is designed to nudge our spirits in the right direction so we make the right choices and stray away from those things that are not of God. Conviction leads us to repentance and subsequently forgiveness, which ultimately leads us to redemption. That means our sins and our past are not held against us and we are not viewed by God through the lens of our past mistakes. Condemnation, on the other hand, suggests that you are nothing more than the sum of your past sins and mistakes. Condemnation is a mindset from the Enemy and it is a trap designed to keep you bound.

You cannot feel God’s love if you’re bound by condemnation, guilt, and shame. You must know and believe that Jesus did not come to condemn the world (John 12:47) and that there is absolutely no condemnation in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1). We serve a loving and merciful God, so if He can forgive us, it is both okay and necessary to forgive ourselves.

Therefore the Lord longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him. 

[Isaiah 30:18]

Build a Relationship with the Lord

Many of us unknowingly carry an Orphan Spirit, that is, a spirit of abandonment, loneliness, and isolation which has existed on Earth since Adam and Eve’s disobedience alienated mankind from God. We must embrace the Spirit of Sonship (or in our case, “Daughtership”) that establishes us not only as children of God, but also joint heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17).  

The orphan spirit causes us to think we must earn the affection and approval of God and others. Under the orphan spirit, insecurity dominates, and we begin to compete with and compare ourselves to others. Those operating out of an orphan spirit are restless and unfilled, trying often to find identity in worldly successes. However, when we operate in the spirit of sonship, we have a firm understanding that we are unconditionally loved and accepted by God, our Father. Sis, Our identity is rooted in Christ and we do not need seek the world for validation. There is also no need to compare ourselves with others because God made us and loves us uniquely. Find security in Him.

Let me tell you how beautiful it is to truly feel the love of God. It’s the greatest joy and deepest peace you’ll ever feel.

There is security.

There is acceptance.

There is redemption

Everything thing you could ever want or imagine is resting in the arms of the Father. So take the time to find out how deeply the Father loves you and cares about you and release those things that prevent you from feeling that love on a personal level. Let this be your Valentine Day’s gift. Trust me, it’s worth it.

Diamond Grant

Staff Writer at Christian En Vogue
Diamond Grant is passionate follower of Christ with a deep love for writing. After rededicating her life to Christ during her college years, Diamond became an advocate for women pursuing mental, emotional, and physical health/wellness. When she is not busy being a homeschooling mama to her son or mentoring women on the road to healing, you can find her with a stack of books and a journal nearby ready to take notes.

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