How a Relationship with God Prepares You for Marriage
To single Christians, it may be tempting to grow anxious or impatient as we wait on God’s timing in bringing a mate but we should never undermine the season of singleness. As we wait on our mate, we shouldn’t be sitting idle and consumed in just watching the clock, counting down the hours ‘til prince charming arrives. Instead, we should use the time to be wholeheartedly engaged to God. When we enter into a relationship with God, He will start to train and equip us on how to have a healthy, and successful relationship with our future spouse. Marriage, just like Christianity, will not always be a walk in the park but God, through various circumstances in Him, will properly prepare us for the season of matrimony. Here are a few things God teaches us as we grow in a relationship with Him.
- The true meaning of commitment- When we say ‘yes’ to God we are making a commitment or vow to be with Him all the days of our life. When things get rough, a true value on commitment is the bond that keeps us grounded and willing to fight for a relationship we esteem. Unfortunately, our generation lacks the revelation of commitment; we are so used to compromising our commitment when we see the next thing that glitters a little brighter or at the first sign of friction and opposition (hence why the rate of divorce is so high these days). Walking with God will restore that. He teaches us how to weather any storm that comes against our relationship with Him and this tenacity will eventually translate into learning how to stay committed in a marriage despite the trials.
- Faithfulness- God teaches that our faithfulness should not be conditional to our emotions. We will all go through rough patches with God where we feel like He is distant, He does not love us, or He is not listening and paying attention to us. Even in these moments of insecurity, we can’t be so quick to trade Him in for another thing or person we feel can satisfy our needs better. Instead, we must be willing to remain still, pray, and talk it out to work it out. This prepares us for the times where we may start to feel distant from our spouse and the enemy tries to tempt us to go find love outside of the home in an adulterous relationship, which is never the answer.
- The importance of intimacy- As we grow intimate with God He will begin to break us down and search, and probe for those things that we carried for so long but we thought we hid deep enough where nobody would find it. In our intimacy, God shows us the beauty in being vulnerable, naked, and transparent. Intimacy is where love, trust, and passion is nurtured, strengthened, and set on a firm foundation so when we lack intimacy with God we start to notice our passion growing weaker and of course it becomes nearly impossible to bear fruits. This correlates to the need and importance of prioritizing intimacy in our future marriages lest we find ourselves falling out of love, and losing passion for our spouse.
- True Love is Forever – Contrary to what this world tells us, love is not an emotion nor a feeling, it goes far beyond that. Emotions are unstable and feelings are deceptive but true love is eternal and unwavering. It cannot be earned nor can it be taken away. True love is kind, selfless, pure, humble, and honest. Love endures all things and suffers long for it’s’ sake. Love will not always be pleasant nor will it always feel good but we learn that if it is true love, it will insist on remaining.
- Sacrifice is the greatest expression of Love– God is our number one example in this. “God so LOVED the world that he GAVE his only begotten son.” (John 3:16). To love is to give up something. Jesus was God’s sacrifice in exchange for something that He loved deeply, the world. In God, we will always be asked to give something up whether it’s a friend, hobby, or a desire and if we love Him we will do it each time. Sacrificing shows you are willing to die to your will and put them second to the desires of the one whom you love. The idea of dying to ourselves and our desires will always transcend to marriage because there will be many times where you’ll have to sacrifice what you want in order to please your spouse so it’s good to get used to it now.