Kim and Kanye. Brad and Angela. Beyonce and Jay Z. How many celebrity couples do we follow or idolize? Sometimes, it’s not even a celebrity, but a cute couple’s photo we might scroll pass on Instagram and immediately think “I want that type of relationship.” Let’s be honest with ourselves. How many images of […]

#RelationshipGoals

 

Kim and Kanye. Brad and Angela. Beyonce and Jay Z.

How many celebrity couples do we follow or idolize? Sometimes, it’s not even a celebrity, but a cute couple’s photo we might scroll pass on Instagram and immediately think “I want that type of relationship.” Let’s be honest with ourselves. How many images of couples have we seen, whether on social media or in magazines and assumed that their relationship is perfect? I’ll admit it; I was guilty of that in the past. Photos labeled with a hashtag Relationship Goals are a trend, not motivation. If we’re not careful, we may begin to worship false representations of love and relationships.

So, how should we as Christians learn about love and healthy relationship habits?

Plain and simple: by focusing on God. His love and desire for a relationship with us, as well as teaching us how to have one, is expressed through Jesus Christ and throughout the Bible. Let’s take a look at how Scripture identifies the three most sought for characteristics in a loving relationship:   

INTIMACY

Ever since the beginning of creation, God intended closeness and deep affection with humans. We were the only creatures crafted by His hand and directly receiving His Breath of Life [Gen. 2:7]. The Bible tells of Adam and Eve originally living in total and complete harmony with God, able to speak directly to Him. Fast forward to the New Testament; we see that Jesus Christ was able to do the same thing. He often left crowds to be in complete solitude, alone with God [Matt. 14:23].

Having spent quality time creating us, God already knows everything about us, inside and out [Psalm 139]. How does one get to know another without spending quality time with them? Intimacy is developed, not discovered.

COMMUNICATION

You may have heard the saying, “Communication is key.” Why is that? It’s because communication enables us to understand one another’s thoughts and feelings. This way, we are aware of their needs, concerns, and experiences. How do we speak to God? Simple: Through prayer [Phil. 4:6]. How does God speak to us? By His Word [2 Tim. 3:16]. Effective communication requires both speaking and listening. Unfortunately, the problem occurs when people spend more time speaking than listening, or forget to listen altogether.

FAITHFULNESS & COMMITMENT  

“Thou shall have no other gods before me” [Exodus 20:3] Why would God say this, knowing that He is the only God? It’s because He knew that we could be easily swooned and redirect our attention to something else. Adultery is not only a sexual term. It’s also used to describe being emotionally unfaithful [Hosea 1:2], seeking happiness and contentment from someone else or something else. If we are to be faithful and committed to a relationship, we have to be careful of who we listen to or allow to influence us. There is a reason scripture tells us to guard our hearts [Prov. 4:23] and that bad company corrupts good character [1 Cor. 15:33].

It’s no mistake why the Bible often uses spousal analogies to describe Christ’s love and affection toward the church [2 Cor. 11:2; Eph. 5:25]. With that said, don’t be misled by social media photos of couples who “appear” happy and in love. We don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.What we do know, is that the faithful and Mighty God we serve, humbled Himself down to human form to dwell among us, embrace us, and ultimately, sacrifice Himself for us. That, in and of itself, is a relationship goal worth hashtagging.

 

 

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Ashley Cottrell

Ashley Cottrell

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With a B.A in English, Ashley Cottrell has written blogs for Virginia Bride Magazine, Bronze Mag, and has been a contributing writer for numerous other digital entities. Although a Virginia-native, Ashley resides in Puerto Rico fulfilling her passion as a freelance writer. She aims to use her gift of writing to inspire others and share the gospel of Christ. When she's not writing, you can find her nose-deep in a game of chess, Salsa dancing, or making homemade skin care products.
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