How to Know If You Are In a Godly Relationship
This life is impossible to go and grow through without the pains and joys of relationships for they are essential and crucial to the development of our personality and character. Every relationship in our lives serves a purpose so it is important to choose your relationships wisely because bad company corrupts good character (1 Cor 15:33).
God will often bring two or more people together into a friendship in order to carry out a specific purpose whether it be in the individuals’ life, within the community, or around the world. Even God-ordained relationships aren’t always rainbows and roses. In fact, any relationship that has purpose in God will be subject to the enemy’s attack and he will try everything in his power to break the relationship up. In these times it is important to decide to not let the enemy break what God has put together.
When a trial comes and you find your friendship on rocky grounds how do you know if it’s time to let it go or keep fighting? The answer is in knowing if it’s a godly relationship or not.
Here are some sure signs on how to tell if your friendship is indeed a God ordained friendship.
They continuously pray for you.
Prayer is one of the greatest acts of love. The difference between a regular friend and a godly friend is when a Godly friend sees you down and in need of hope, guidance, or encouragement they won’t just give you cliché words of advice. They will also go the extra mile and stand before God on your behalf when you may be too tired or weak to do so your self.
They are able to forgive you of all your shortcomings.
None of us are perfect! Even in our best intentions, we are bound to disappoint or hurt even the people dearest to us. The Bible says that love keeps no record of wrong. (1 Cor 13:5) so any godly friend who loves you will be able to forgive you of your trespasses. A relationship determined to work will have to understand the importance of making a commitment to forgiveness.
They are not afraid to correct you or tell you the truth.
A Godly friend’s job isn’t always to tell you what you want to hear and make you feel good about yourself. A godly friend understands that more important than telling you what you want to hear is making sure that you know the truth and that you are being protected from your own demise or self-destruction. A godly friend won’t care about hurting your feelings if it means saving your soul. Better open rebuke than hidden love, wounds from a friend can be trusted but an enemy multiplies kisses. (Pro 27:5) In other words, a person who is always kissing up to you is more your enemy while the one that may hurt your feelings out of love-inspired correction is the better friend that you can trust.
They pick you up when you are down and comfort you in your times of weakness.
There are multiple places in the bible that talks about the importance of having a friend who will pick you up when you are down including Ecclesiastes 4:9. God especially created friendships so that they could be our lifesavers when we feel like we’re drowning. You may find that when certain storms come in your life some people around you may instinctively start distancing themselves from you because they only like you when you are happy and well. It is in these seasons that your Godly friend(s) will recognize your need and remain close to you. They will also have compassion and empathy to love you through the storms even if that means putting up with a less joyful, energetic, or entertaining you.
They encourage or inspire you to grow in your relationship with God and your calling.
Pro 27:17 says that Iron sharpens iron. A Godly friendship is always comprised of people who will edify each other and make each other better. Each person in the relationship has a duty of rubbing off what they have on the other person so that that person could be edified and strengthened. It should not be one person doing all the sharpening but rather each person giving something. This may be anything from passion, wisdom, revelation, motivation, guidance, or encouragement. Further, a Godly friend will to encourage and inspire you to go to church, read your bible, or spend time with God not only by their words but also by their actions and lifestyle.
How did your friendship measure up to this list? Let us know in the comments below. Make sure to share this article with your Godly friends.♥
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Kesha Dorisma is the visionary behind Christian En Vogue. She is deeply and utterly in love with Jesus Christ and she is passionate about sharing his love to the masses of this world and making his name famous! Outside of writing she is also a photographer and she loves fashion, singing and dancing, and working out before eating sushi and pizza!