I Messed Up, Now What?
He’ll never forgive me.
How could I have been so stupid?
There’s no coming back from this.
At least, that’s how we feel. As Christians, when we do something we know was wrong, especially against the Word of God, the spirit of conviction can come like a flood. You lied. You cheated. You cursed someone out. You were driving and cut someone off. You had sex. You spoke badly about someone. You haven’t been reading your Bible. You stole something. You partied and got completely drunk. You did the worst thing possible and now. . .you’re here.
Guess what? So did I.
And so did another woman. And so did another. All of us have sinned before and most likely will sin again.
Should we glorify that? Absolutely not. But should we wallow in our shortcomings? No ma’am.
Why? Because the Bible instructed us to do one two simple things when we mess up: confess and repent.
[James 5:16] “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
You forgot one thing: Jesus already paid it all.
[Ephesians 1:7] “In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”
Let me tell you something. If you think because you messed up and fell short, that God would just lose all hope in you and walk away? Sis, you must’ve forgotten who God is. The Mighty God we serve is not a man. He created you, He knows you, He loves you, and He will correct you. That’s what the Holy Spirit is there for.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane and look at one of the most renown kings in the BIble: King David [2 Samuel 11 & 12].
If you’re like me, you probably questioned King David’s character (quite a few times). The Bible says he was a man after God’s own heart, yet, he did quite a few things that said otherwise:
- He lusted after another man’s wife, Bathsheba (and David already had a few wives!)
- He slept with Bathsheba (which classifies as having an affair)
- He ordered for her husband, Uriah, to be killed
And King David went about his business as if he did nothing wrong. That is, until God sent the prophet Samuel to call David out on his wrongdoing. Keep in mind that this wasn’t something quick within a few days. This situation occurred for what may have been several months. Bathsheba had become pregnant from their affair and was close to having the baby around the time Samuel confronted David.
David repented and went on to express extreme turmoil, emotional pain, and requested God’s forgiveness through Psalms.
Have mercy upon me, O God,
According to Your lovingkindness; According to the multitude of Your tender mercies,
Blot out my transgressions,
Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity;
And cleanse me from my sin.
That’s what our Lord is looking for—a humble, contrite heart.
Even after deliberately doing wrong over a course of months, God still favored King David. He still used Him as an instrument in His perfect plan of redemption: leading a nation to trusting God, writing majority of the Book of Psalms, and being an ancestor of none other than Jesus Christ.
A loving, yet stern and disciplining father knows whether you fell into temptation, backslid, or have been dealing with circumstances that led to your choices. He knows more about you than you do, so don’t tell Him who He can and cannot give a second chance.
In the meantime, surround yourself with godly friends who can check on you and hold you accountable. Remove who or what in your life that tempts you. Ask yourself if the plans and actions you get involved in will help or hurt your reputation, cloud your thought process, and threaten your physical health. It’s not easy, but honestly, it’s not supposed to be. We made the decision to face trials and tribulations every day as Christians. Our hope and trust are not in what we see, but what we know by faith.
So confess, repent, and let the devil know that you don’t have time for his games, because your called to a higher purpose beyond comprehension.
With a B.A in English, Ashley Cottrell has written blogs for Virginia Bride Magazine, Bronze Mag, and has been a contributing writer for numerous other digital entities. Although a Virginia-native, Ashley resides in Puerto Rico fulfilling her passion as a freelance writer. She aims to use her gift of writing to inspire others and share the gospel of Christ. When she's not writing, you can find her nose-deep in a game of chess, Salsa dancing, or making homemade skin care products.