Hope After Heartbreak
Heartbroken is a term that is most commonly used to describe the feeling of losing something. A loss can affect us so badly that we can start to feel incomplete without it. Perhaps somebody close to you passed away, maybe you just ended a relationship that you wished would last forever, or maybe you are experiencing the end of a friendship, and all you can think now is what happens next. Heartbreak is never an easy thing to go through but here are three steps to bring you closer to hope after heartbreak.
1. Strengthen Your Connection With Christ Through Prayer.
This isn’t to suggest you didn’t have one prior to the heartbreak, but during this time of confusion and vulnerability talk to your Heavenly Father in thanksgiving. When it seems as though nothing is going right, the greatest thing we can do is look at what we’ve got and thank God for the simple blessing of another day, food, and clothes.
Once we realize how blessed we are, and understand that God’s got everything all planned out, we can begin to heal.
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” [1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NIV]
2. Find Joy in the Little Things.
It really is the little things that bring us the most joy. It can be taking a walk outside, cooking, writing, reading, painting, or anything that can help you clear your mind and help you see the beauty in the world we’ve been blessed to enjoy. Those little things have the power to change our lives for the better.
It’s easy for us to feel overwhelmed when negativity builds up. We lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel, and it feels easier to just give up. That’s why in this time of sorrow it’s important to focus on the hobbies that gives us to joy.
Just be careful that you are using sound judgement in what you decide to do for ‘pleasure’. ’Stay strong in faith and acknowledge the Lord in all you do.
“I have the right to do anything,’ you say-but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’-but not everything is constructive.” [1 Corinthians 10:23 NIV]
3. Know Your Worth.
When we lose somebody it can be easy for us to place the blame on ourselves.When a friendship or any other relationship comes to an end we may struggle to adapt to not seeing them anymore but through it all, don’t blame yourself. Your worth does not waver with circumstances. Through every season you will still be loved unconditionally by your Heavenly Father.
In the moment it may feel like there’s no good coming your way. It may feel like this is how it’s going to be for the rest of eternity but none of that is true.
While we may be losing somebody, we should be careful to not lose ourselves in the process. Instead of overthinking all the possible ways it went wrong try thinking of how you can change for the better. Instead of obsessing over what you can’t change in the past, think about what’s best for you at this moment now.
God places people in our lives for seasons at a time, and once the reason for them being in your life is fulfilled then we have to learn to let them go. We may not be able to immediately see the beauty of the separation but in due time we can look back and know it was an opportunity for us to grow. So no matter what happened, know that your worth will never waver in the eyes of your Heavenly Father.
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword?”[Romans 8:35 ESV]
“… I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” [Romans 8:38 ESV]
These three steps together can help truly light up our darkest hours. As we immerse them into our daily life, they can help us keep our hearts strong and prepared for the future. Only God knows what’s to come and when our hearts are turned to him, there comes a feeling of indescribable safety. It’s the feeling of knowing that God’s got it and there’s no need to worry about what’s to come or what happened.
In all of this remember that God allows us to go through tough situations for specific reasons. Even though people leaving us may hurt in the moment, we’ve got to remember that it’s all in his grand plan and we are still unconditionally loved by Him. Also, remember that no matter how much you’ve been hurt by another, they too are also loved unconditionally by God. Always extend out mercy and thank God for them.
“‘This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.’” [John 15:12 ESV]
I pray as you heal and slowly mend the pieces of your heart back together, that you keep your heart guarded and strong, knowing your worth and trusting in his grand plan for the future. I also pray that you will look to your bibles as a map when life’s trials and tribulations come about. They don’t call it the living Word of God without reason.
Staff Writer at Christian En Vogue
Lydia Wondimu is a young girl from Ethiopia who has a heart for others.Dedicating her life to Christ at an early age, Lydia has set out from her home in Seattle across the globe to spread the Gospel, making sure each person she meets leaves with a smile knowing they are loved by their Heavenly Father. When she's not busy making coffee for her customers; you'll most probably find her eating everything in sight, or laughing with somebody, whether they're a friend or a stranger-turned-friend.