Feeling Yourself a Bit Too Much? 3 Signs of Prideful Behavior
Are you prideful? Do you struggle with not reaching your full potential in life and not sure why? Do you struggle with creating and building lasting relationships with others?
Pride is defined as having or showing arrogance, superiority to, or disdain of those viewed as unworthy. Being self-confident is one thing, but thinking you are better than someone is a sign of pride.
As Christians we must be mindful that pride does not get in our way. We must not think of ourselves more highly than we are. (Romans 12:3) Even worse, pride is one of the most grotesque sins in the eyes of God. The root of pride is the very thing that got Lucifer kicked out of Heaven as he began to think that he was better than God.
Cockiness is one of the first signs of pride. There is nothing wrong with having a good sense of self. It is important that you know and like who you are. However, when that self-confidence turns into arrogance, watch out. Be cautious of this cocky behavior as it can rub people the wrong way. This type of attitude makes it difficult for you to build healthy relationships with others. No one wants to be around a person who is always gloating of themselves while making others around them feel less than.
When it comes to developing a good sense of self, you must find the balance. That balance is Christ. You will then start to exhibit, what I like to call Godfidence. This means to have Christ centered confidence. When your confidence is centered in Christ, there is no need to be cocky.
To build a Christ centered type of confidence you must have a relationship with God and understand what He says about you. To develop a relationship with Him ask Him to come into your heart. Christ changes that cocky into Christlike confidence.
Do you have trouble admitting when you are wrong? The second sign of pride is when a person does not take full responsibility for their own actions when a mistake is made. Instead they blame others. We all know that when you make a mistake and have to admit it, that can be ego bruising. Also, depending on how high the stakes are, it can most certainly damage your self-esteem. To avoid having a crushed ego, the easy solution is to blame something or someone for the mistake.
Choosing to play the blame game is not the answer. That solution will take the focus off of you for a brief moment but if you do not address the real issue (your heart), you will continue to make mistakes, sometimes even the same mistakes over and over.
“Whoever hides his sin (mistake) will not succeed, but the one who admits his sin (mistake) will find mercy. Happy is the one who always respects the Lord, but the person who hardens his heart falls into misfortune.” (Proverbs 28:13-14 NIV)
Do not harden your heart by trying to cover up your mistakes and blaming others. When you make a mistake, step out of the pride zone and have the courage to say, “It was me, it was my fault and I am sorry.”
The “I Got This” Complex
The third sign of pride is the unwillingness to ask for help. The mindset which says, “I got this.” “I can do everything by myself.” or “I do not need anyone’s help.”, all point to having a prideful mentality. A person who has this type of mentality views asking for help as a sign of weakness. Asking for help is a very vulnerable place to be in but you should never feel like you have to do it all. It is okay to ask for help, that’s why God is a God of community and family.
Further, do not be afraid to seek God for help. When things get difficult do not leave God out of the equation. It may appear easier to take matters into your own hands, but when you are relying solely on your strength, things start to get heavy, and the load becomes difficult to bear. To resolve this, invite God into your situations.
Philippians 4:13 states, I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. It is Christ’s strength that is perfected in all the areas where you feel weak. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. When you ask for help you have a strong sense of who you are you know what can handle.
These are just some of the ways pride can manifest in our lives. If you find that you do indeed struggle with pride, first repent of all the ways you have let pride into your life. Proceed with asking God to give you his spirit of humility. From there, remember that prideful behavior starts in the heart and mind. When you start to get a prideful thought, don’t harbor on it too long. Instead cast it down immediately and start negating those thoughts with the truth, which is the word of God.
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