Can you relate to those awkward silences in conversations because you could not find words in your vast vocabulary to propagate a simple conversation? Or maybe you can relate to the feeling of going to an event and feeling invisible because you’re very poor at attracting attention to yourself. Then, of course, there’s that one […]

What Every Introverted Christian Should Know

Can you relate to those awkward silences in conversations because you could not find words in your vast vocabulary to propagate a simple conversation? Or maybe you can relate to the feeling of going to an event and feeling invisible because you’re very poor at attracting attention to yourself. Then, of course, there’s that one person that you look up to because they can walk into a room and the whole place lights up, gets everyone cracked up,  and easily gets favors done for them because they’re easily likable and you can’t help but wish you were a bit more like them.

Well, any introvert would most likely relate to these everyday dilemmas that they face in relationships with humans. Now here are a few things you should know as one

It’s okay to be introverted: You’ve probably imagined that being introverted has worked more against you than for you, but hear me out. It’s completely okay to be introverted and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. God made you just the way you are on purpose. This includes your mannerisms, your methods of communication, and your preference for solitude. These are not mistakes. He knew just the kind of personality that was needed for the purpose he predestined you to walk in. Regardless of what anyone has to say, there is no mistake about you and the earlier you realize that and be confident in your God-given personality, the more you’d begin to realize its importance in your purpose. The earlier you stop comparing yourself to others and appreciate the beauty in all our differences, the easier it gets to relate with people.

Its okay to be extroverted: Yes people, that’s absolutely okay too. There is nothing wrong with extroverts too. They’re not too loud or attention seeking; they’re just the way their maker needs them to be. On the other extreme of introverts who wish to be like extroverts are the introverts who feel they are superior to extroverts because of their more serious outlook on life, engagement in only needful conversations, and absolute abhorrence for small talk. Well, I can only imagine the world filled with introverted people, and I can tell you that I’m grateful to God that stays in my imaginations alone. The all-knowing God knew how important diversity is and created us with different looks and different behaviors.

There’s always room for improvement: Perfection does not exist in our flawed world so nobody has it all together. While you learning to be comfortable in your skin, you must simultaneously seek every day to become a better version of yourself. Introversion is no excuse for poor social skills and rudeness. Besides, how are we going to spread the good news to all the ends of the earth if we only stay by ourselves and refuse to interact with others? Granted it may take a little more effort from you but with God’s sufficient grace and the Holy Spirit guarding your words and actions, you’ll learn each day to speak and relate like Christ would to those he brings along your way.

What is yours will be yours A lot of introverted people feel like they’ve lost opportunities that came their way because of their reserved nature especially those that require a lot of human interaction. But know this, for every Christian that walks with God and allows themselves to be guided by the Holy Spirit, no one else can take what God has meant for you. If he has your name on it, then it’ll surely get to you. This is not to say we should sit back and remain transfixed and rigid in our ways with no room for change, but as the Holy Spirit directs, we should speak and relate with others as he leads us to.

If you’re extroverted and reading this, understand that sometimes introverts find it harder to express themselves or interact in the way you do. Don’t write them off as snobby, rude or proud, let the holy spirit lead you as you relate with them and understand that we need just as many introverts as extroverts for a healthy balance in the world.

 

Ize Anumah

Ize Anumah

Staff Writer at Christian En Vogue
Ize Anumah is a twenty year old medical student from Nigeria. She loves to write and she cannot think of a better person to write about than Jesus! She is passionate about encouraging young women because she truly believes that a woman in Christ can change the world!

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