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About Martina Samantha

Martina Samantha, also known as Tina Demure, is a 23-year old woman of God that found her passion in the form of a pen and a pad. With every heartbreak, breakdown, or breakthrough, she has turned to writing to document each moment.Growing up, she was told that she would be a surgeon but she was confused as to what that meant. She never had any interest in the medical field, science, or performing surgery. But now she knows that God meant that her hands would be used to write stories that would heal her own heart, and touch the hearts of others. Check out Tdemure.com for more from Tina.
  • “I’m living my best life” is a common phrase that many people  say to express a life of freedom or happiness. Many people determine their current quality of life based on social media or social constructs. For example, if you have a large amount of followers on Instagram, a lot of money in the bank, […]

    An Abundant Life, Not a Boring Life

    “I’m living my best life” is a common phrase that many people  say to express a life of freedom or happiness. Many people determine their current quality of life based on social media or social constructs. For example, if you have a large amount of followers on Instagram, a lot of money in the bank, and your makeup looks flawless, then you may be “living your best life” according to societal standards. But have you reached your highest potential? Are you truly living your best life if you’re not living a blessed life? Is “I’m living my best life” a phrase we can truly say if we are still living in sin?

    Cutting sin out of our lives may feel like cutting sugar out of our diet. Sin can be something viewed as garnishment to enhance our lives instead of as garbage that destroys our souls. The same way we don’t need sugar in our food to have a good meal, we don’t need sin to live our best lives. Now I know you may be thinking “But I’m not perfect and doesn’t everyone sin?” The answer is yes. We won’t be sinless, but we can sin less. Just like eating too much sugar can get you sick, being saturated by sin can be detrimental to your life.

    You may be thinking “But there are just too many rules,” “what can I do for fun?” or “I just don’t want my life to be boring.” I understand each of these statements because I had the same concerns. But one day I received a revelation about why God places limits in our lives. I was told that “boundaries don’t limit you, they limit the devil.” That is why the devil lies and makes sin seem fun. If you continue to live out of the bounds that God has placed, then the enemy is bound to attack you. For example, let’s look at the scripture 1 Peter 5:8:

    “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

    God calls us to be sober because the enemy is always waiting to attack. If we have sober minds, we can be prepared and not impaired. When you are fully surrendered to God, you can resist the devil and he will flee from you. That means he will no longer have dominion over you, he can no longer depress you or disturb you. According to James 4:10, when we humble ourselves before the Lord, He will lift us up. Also, according to Matthew 6:33, when we seek His kingdom and righteousness first, everything we need will be added unto us. And guess what, it will be greater than anything we could have ever imagined, according to Ephesians 3:20. When God steps in, life will be abundant, not boring. The enemy will lie to you and make you believe that following Jesus will soak up all of your fun, but he tells this lie because he is trying to steal your soul.

    “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” [John 10:10]

    In Christ, you will not only find true freedom but also fun. As Christians, we don’t just sit around and do nothing; in fact, there is so much we can do. Here are a list of things you can try:

    1.  Watch Movies: You may be wondering “How do I know what movies are okay to watch?” The Holy Spirit is there to guide you. Listen to the Spirit regarding what movies or content you should indulge in. If your conscience is telling you not to watch something, then maybe you shouldn’t. Ask Him to send you movies that will not only be entertaining but glorifying to Him.
    2.     Go to an Arcade: There’s nothing wrong with playing games or racing your best friend on go-karts.
    3.     Go to a Theme Park: If you’re looking for a thrill, you can have the time of your life on a rollercoaster.
    4.     Go Out to Eat: If you are a faith-filled foodie, try out new restaurants or food trucks in your area.
    5.     Pamper Yourself: Babe, treat yourself to a spa day! Or you can go get your hair and nails done.

    And this is just to name a few. Ask the Father to send you faith-filled friends or fun ideas that will have you enjoying life and living right. Jesus died for us and now we can freely live for Him. I want to encourage you not to focus on the rules, but focus on the relationship. When you enter a relationship with your significant other, most of the time there are boundaries in place so the couple can maintain a healthy relationship. The same goes for a relationship with Jesus. When we truly love Jesus, we will try our best to keep His commandments. If you love Him, listen to Him and live for Him.

    “If you love Me, keep My commandments.” [John 14:15]

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  • Babe, do you love the Father but you also like fashion? Do you love Jesus but really like jewelry? Do you have the Holy Spirit but also like trying different hairstyles? Have you ever struggled with the question, “can I be faithful and fashionable?” As Christian women, we often hear that we should be modest […]

    Faithful Fashionista

    Babe, do you love the Father but you also like fashion? Do you love Jesus but really like jewelry? Do you have the Holy Spirit but also like trying different hairstyles? Have you ever struggled with the question, “can I be faithful and fashionable?”

    As Christian women, we often hear that we should be modest or pure; and I agree. Modesty, or purity, is something we are called to. But it is not only what we wear, it is who we are. It is how we behave and how we present ourselves. Let’s look at what scripture says:

    “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” [1 Peter 3:1-4:]

    Modesty, or purity, is a conduct. We can conduct ourselves in a modest manner by the way we speak, serve, and style ourselves. By doing so, we can win people over for the Kingdom. We have an awesome article here on Christian EnVogue, “Tips On Modesty”, that goes more in depth on the concept and conduct of a modest woman.

    Now, let’s talk about how to live out our faith in a fashionable way. If we refer back to the above scripture, the word tells us not to let our “adorning be external.”

    Is God saying we can’t braid our hair, wear necklaces, or even wear clothes? No. The New King James Version actually reads “do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel.” That word “merely” stood out to me. Merely means “only” or solely. The word adornment also stood out to me because it means beautification. So in other words, do not let your beautification be only outward. I believe God is urging us to assess where our beauty is derived from. Do we spend more time focusing on hair, clothes, and gold or are we focusing on what truly matters which is that gentle and quiet spirit that God finds precious?

    I believe God wants us to know that being pretty is not a fashion or hair issue, it is a heart issue. God is trying to tell us that “good looks will fade, but a good heart will keep you beautiful forever.” I believe that is why He describes it as an “imperishable” beauty. Imperishable means indestructible, enduring, or eternal; this should be our goal in regards to our beautification.

    So don’t fret, babe. It is okay to like fashion and beauty. Just remember to keep purity and modesty in mind when you speak to others, serve others, and style yourself. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind:

     

    1. God Gives Us Things To Enjoy.

    Command those who are rich in this world’s goods not to be haughty or to set their hope on riches, which are uncertain, but on God who richly provides us with all things for our enjoyment. [1 Timothy 6:17]

    This verse taught me that God actually gives us things for our enjoyment. As a fashionista, you may enjoy shopping, trying new trends, or getting a new hairstyle, and that is okay. Just make sure you value serving more than shopping. Make sure you value giving more than getting. Make sure you love the Giver, which is God, more than you love the gifts, which are things such as makeup, gold, and clothes.

     

    2. Use Your Passion for Your Purpose.  

    “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” [Matthew 28:19 – 20]

    I was once told that we all have one purpose. Our purpose is to be a disciple and to make disciples. Matthew 28:19 -20, which is also referred to as “The Great Commission,” helped me realize that I am called to spread the gospel. However, just because we have the same purpose, does not mean we have the same assignments.

    “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.” [Romans 12:6-8]

    This verse illustrates that we are all graced to serve God in different ways. You don’t have to be an ordained minister to be effective for the Kingdom. I believe that there is a specific reason why God gave you an interest for fashion and beauty. You can use your passion for fashion to touch hearts and teach others about Jesus. You can get creative with it. Start a blog, small group, or simply use your social media to show your style and serve your Savior. Remember, your conduct can win someone over without you even saying a word. God has graced you to be a fashionista with a heart full of love for Him, so show this to the world! This is how you can be a Faithful Fashionista.

     

    3. God Can Purify Your Heart.

    “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” [Psalm 51:10]

    If you feel that you may have too much admiration for adornment and not enough love for the Father, God can change that. Go to Him humbly with a repentant heart and ask Him to create in you a pure heart. Ask Him to show you how to love Him deeper and ask Him for forgiveness. Thank Him for His love, His mercy, and another chance to get it right. Ask Him to remove all unclean motives and thoughts from your mind, heart, and soul. Pour your heart out to the Father so He can began to purify it. 1 John 1:9 is a scripture in the Bible that acknowledges how God can purify us of all unrighteousness. When you confess, He can do the rest.

    “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” [1  John 1:9]

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  • This one is for my bloggers, businesswomen, and babes who are trying to make their mark on the world through a strong social influence. You have the foundation, the forte, and you foresee the promise but for some reason, you don’t have the following. Have you found yourself frustrated because you felt like nothing was […]

    Be Fluent In the Word Before You Have Influence On the World

    This one is for my bloggers, businesswomen, and babes who are trying to make their mark on the world through a strong social influence. You have the foundation, the forte, and you foresee the promise but for some reason, you don’t have the following. Have you found yourself frustrated because you felt like nothing was going your way? Or have you felt that you were blocked, beaten down, and bound with no escape? Or maybe you feel like nothing you try abounds, therefore you become saddened and wonder what you are doing wrong.

    Well, I’m here to tell you this:

    “Your attitude affects your altitude.”

    Have you heard this quote before? Essentially, what this quote is emphasizing is that our perspective ultimately affects our progression. So let’s challenge our thinking and begin sinking deeper into a possibility why you have not fully acquired what you desire.

    Have you ever considered that God wants you to grow before He allows you to go? Since He’s a good father, He doesn’t want to send His children out prematurely or unprepared. He wants you to be well-equipped so you can truly make a shift in society.

    So what can you do as you prepare for placement and appointment?

    Spend Time with God

    Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Seek His face and allow Him to heal, help, and hone you. During this time, it may feel like a trial that you do not know how to get out of. You may feel like you want to just give up and pursue something else but I say be encouraged and remember this verse.

    “After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.” –1 Peter 5:10

     

     

    Spend Time with Yourself

    Do you truly know yourself, sis? Can you really help others when you can’t help yourself? The more you spend time with God, He will begin revealing things to you, about you, that probably never crossed your mind before. He will start revealing the gifts He placed on the inside of you and the plans He predestined for you.

    ” ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ ” –Jeremiah 29:11

    Commit to the Process

    Don’t you want to tap into that precious, predestined plan from God? If you do, you just have to stay the course. I know you feel like you’re drowning but you’re developing. I know you feel like you’re losing but you’re learning. I know you feel stagnant but His grace is sufficient.

    “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” –2 Corinthians 12:9

    When you come through this season, you’ll truly see that God had you in it for a reason. Don’t rush, just trust. After you learn yourself, the Lord and the word, maybe then you’ll have that strong influence on the world.

     

     

     

     

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  • “Are you pregnant?” Vs. “Are you okay?” “Those things are huge.” Vs. “You need to eat.” “You’ve put on some weight.” Vs. “You’re so thin” Whether I gained or lost weight, people felt the need to comment on my body as if it was on display. I’m sorry, but Martina is a person, not a […]

    Learning To Love Yourself Through The Thick and Thin: A Journey to Body Positivity



    “Are you pregnant?” Vs. “Are you okay?”
    “Those things are huge.” Vs. “You need to eat.”
    “You’ve put on some weight.” Vs. “You’re so thin”


    Whether I gained or lost weight, people felt the need to comment on my body as if it was on display. I’m sorry, but Martina is a person, not a museum that you can point out, pick at, or peruse. I want to address my experience with body shaming and body image as a whole. I have been on both sides of the body shaming spectrum and I can honestly say that they both hurt me the same.  

    There was a point in time when I began to eat any and everything that my heart desired. I had no regard for diet, exercise, or the damage my overconsumption of food was possibly doing to my body. Before I knew it, I gained 30 pounds and couldn’t figure out how it all happened. I didn’t want to give up my bad diet, so I thought that if I exercised here and there, that I could somehow lose the weight. Throughout this process, my classmates, coworkers, and kin began to notice that I had gained a significant amount of weight. The stares and comments were like darts piercing my heart each time they were thrown my way. I began to feel disgusted with myself and loathed seeing myself without clothes. But the kicker is, I loathed seeing myself in clothes, as well. I felt as if everything was ill-fitting, so the illness of hating my body started to infect my mind and self-esteem. I always loved fashion but found it hard to keep up with the latest trends because I viewed my new body as a restriction instead of a “recent”, or updated, version of me.

    I remember attending a college event at a skating rink and someone I considered an associate decided to acknowledge my weight in the most embarrassing way. In front of guests and friends, he belted out “you got fat! What’s wrong you with you? Are you pregnant or something?” As a fake smile formed and tears caused my eyes to swell, I tried to act as if his words did not just stab my deepest insecurity. I went home sad and frozen. Following this incident, I continued to receive inquiries regarding impregnation from close friends, family, and even children. The constant misconception that I was entering into motherhood and the immerse mockery propelled me into purposeful weight loss.   

    I began my weight loss journey and I was very serious about it. I was the meal prep queen and made sure I carved out time to exercise. I began dropping weight very fast. I lost four pounds within the first week with my trainer and new lifestyle. The weight began shedding and the shame began shedding, until comments begin to infiltrate once again.

    During training at my new job, they always offered cookies, brownies, pizza, and everything else that was saturated with things that were not conducive to my diet. I would only eat the fruit or my packed meals for the day. My coworkers began taunting and tormenting me for not eating the delicacies that I viewed detrimental to my new lifestyle.

    “Do you ever eat?”

    I began to grow tired of that inquiry as if I was running a cross-country race of questions. Yes, I ate, I just chose not to indulge in things that would cause my belly to bulge again. But what’s wrong with that? I didn’t condemn them for eating brownies, so why did they condemn me when I ate bananas? The more fit I became, the more condemnation came, so I had to learn to thicken my skin to withstand the comments I was battling.

    “You’re going to disappear.”

    This was another unamusing phrase that poorly addressed my weight loss, and initially made me sad. However, I decided to address that phrase from a more positive perspective. In the midst of negativity and harmful comments about my weight, I decided to remove myself from the realms and reach of those people. Essentially, I did “disappear” from the situation in an effort to conserve my positivity, peace, and personal happiness. Each time I encountered a negative comment, I decided to just remove myself from the situation and talk to God about my feelings.  This coping mechanism helped me approach body shaming and body image issues in a more productive manner. Each time I experience this, God allows me to learn a valuable lesson instead of allowing it to fester and hinder me.

    These are three big takeaways for me:

    1. I cannot alter my life to please people.

    2. I had deep-rooted insecurities.

    3. People were projecting their own insecurities when they spoke negatively about me.


    It is interesting to me that I sought to change my body because of the negativity and ended up encountering more negativity when my body changed. This only showed me that I had deep-rooted issues that needed to be addressed. I couldn’t spend the rest of my life attempting to please people with my appearance. I had to realize that my beauty was not defined by society’s standard of beauty. I had to accept the fact that everyone’s negative projections were just a reflection of who they were on the inside and how they felt about themselves. It showed me that they had a character flaw because they found delight in setting fire to my flaws. Through my thick and thin seasons, I had to learn to love me for me. I have to continue to work on seeing myself as the beautiful woman God created me to be and not allow my outward appearance or body shape to harness me. I have to learn to accept God’s word on beauty and push through the negativity.

    “It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from inside you –the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear and it is worth very much to God.” – 1 Peter 3:3 – 4

     

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