Author Archive for: Diamond Grant

About Diamond Grant

Diamond Grant is passionate follower of Christ with a deep love for writing. After rededicating her life to Christ during her college years, Diamond became an advocate for women pursuing mental, emotional, and physical health/wellness. When she is not busy being a homeschooling mama to her son or mentoring women on the road to healing, you can find her with a stack of books and a journal nearby ready to take notes.
  • In life, one of the most monumental challenges we’ll endure is learning to forgive people who’ve hurt us. For minor offenses, it’s easy. But for the deep, emotional wounds, not so much. If I can be transparent, a part of my struggle was rooted in pride. I was the person who was wronged, therefore they […]

    The Value of Forgiveness

    In life, one of the most monumental challenges we’ll endure is learning to forgive people who’ve hurt us. For minor offenses, it’s easy. But for the deep, emotional wounds, not so much. If I can be transparent, a part of my struggle was rooted in pride. I was the person who was wronged, therefore they needed to ask for my forgiveness before I even considered offering it. In my eyes, that person was guilty of the offense and thus, they did not deserve to be forgiven.

    It wasn’t until I heard a message at my church one Sunday service that I realized I was walking in unforgiveness. I wasn’t operating according to God’s will. After the sermon, I desperately wanted to get right with God and be free from the emotional burdens I was carrying. To do so, I had to understand why forgiveness is so important.

     

    Why Should I Forgive?

    If you are anything like me, you can probably find a ton of reasons why you shouldn’t forgive someone. If I am being really honest, most of those reasons are probably justified. However, forgiveness is something we need to actively pursue and here is why:

     

    • God Forgives Us. The Bible says in Ephesians 4: 31-32, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” The fact is, we are all imperfect, and our God is gracious enough to forgive us. How then can we deny others the same graciousness that God grants us?

     

    • God Commanded Us. There are probably a dozen valid reasons why the person who hurt you does not deserve forgiveness, but that does not change the fact that God has called us to forgive. The Bible says in Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” It’s not a suggestion. It’s not a recommendation. It is a command. So whether you like it or not, harboring unforgiveness in your heart equates to willful disobedience of God.

     

    • Forgiveness Frees Us. A quote that I love by Marianne Williamson says, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.”  It’s interesting just how much we feel like holding onto unforgiveness hurts the person we are choosing not to forgive. The reality is that the only person who ends up hurting is us. In most cases, the other person isn’t even aware that we are hurting and/or choosing not to forgive them. So they continue living a free and full life while we wallow in anger and bitterness. As long as you choose to hold onto the offense, your heart will never be open to receive the peace or joy God desires for you to have. Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. When we choose to forgive, we are granting ourselves mental and emotional freedom by releasing the offense and the person who committed the offense. Forgiving does not mean that what was done is alright. Forgiving does not mean you have to forget or forge a relationship with the other person. Forgiving simply means you are choosing not to be controlled by the event or person anymore.

     

    How Do I Forgive?

    I’m not going to pretend that forgiving others is easy, because in most cases it’s quite hard. I also do not believe there is a one size fits all method of walking in forgiveness. However, when I decided I was ready to walk in forgiveness, I found the following to be very helpful:

     

    • Understand that Forgiveness is a Process. Most of us expect forgiveness to be instant. We expect that once we choose to forgive someone, the pain associated with the offense will immediately cease and we’ll be free of that thing forever. In reality, forgiveness is a process. There will be things that arise to remind you of the situation or person occasionally. There may be times when you find yourself dealing with negative emotions related to the particular offense. Do not get discouraged when this happens. Simply remember the choice you made to forgive and choose to commit to that choice continuously. Know that there will be a day when you won’t be bothered by the offense and trust God until that day comes.

     

    • Give it to God. Before I ever committed to forgiving anyone, I had to turn the issue and the person over to God. You are not alone on this journey. You have a God who can and will help you through this process. It is by His strength and His strength alone that you can forgive, but you must first give Him permission to come alongside you and help you release the issue.

     

    You deserve to have peace and joy in your life. You deserve to have complete mental and emotional freedom. Choose today to no longer be burdened by the bondage of unforgiveness. The same God who forgives you wants to help you forgive others. Allow Him to begin to do a new work in you so you can walk in obedience and embrace the freedom that is rightfully yours.

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  • Who doesn’t love a good Christmas party? The fun, the friends, and let’s not forget. . . the food! I’m sure most people can agree with me that healthy eating slips from the priority list during the holidays. But what if I told you that you could have your Christmas cake and eat it too? […]

    5 Tips For Staying Healthy this Holiday Season

    Who doesn’t love a good Christmas party? The fun, the friends, and let’s not forget. . . the food! I’m sure most people can agree with me that healthy eating slips from the priority list during the holidays. But what if I told you that you could have your Christmas cake and eat it too? Here are 5 simple tips to help you stay on top of your health goals during the holidays:

     

    1. Plan Ahead

    Don’t find yourself caught off-guard by a holiday party menu full of unhealthy options. Be proactive and ask the party host(s) for the menu ahead of time. If you find the menu isn’t health-friendly, you can either ask the host(s) to incorporate some options that fall into your dietary parameters or bring your own healthy dishes. Either way, you’ll have the upper hand.

     

    2. Eat Before You Go

    This may seem like a weird suggestion, but it’s quite effective in helping to curb your appetite. Eating a meal/snack shortly before the holiday gathering will make you feel full, and it’s kind of difficult to overeat when you’re already stuffed.

     

    3. Drink Water

    One of the easiest ways to boost your metabolism and overall health during the holidays is to stay hydrated. Drinking adequate amounts of water daily promotes digestion because it assists the kidneys and bowels in eliminating toxic waste from our bodies. This means you can flush every trace of that holiday meal out of your body rather than allowing it to sit in your system.

    A good rule of thumb when trying to determine how much water you should drink daily is to take your weight and multiply that number by 0.67. For example, if you weigh 115 lbs and you multiply that by 0.67, you would need to drink approximately 77 ounces of water (about 10 cups) per day.

     

    4. Portion Control

    Did you know that most people eat two to three times more than the recommended serving size? Why is this significant? Because doubling or tripling the portion size doubles or triples the calorie, sugar, and sodium intake.

    I am a huge proponent of the concept, “everything in moderation.” There is no harm in enjoying a few sweets here and there if you don’t overdo it. If the food served during the holiday party come from a package, you can read its appropriate serving size and nutrition facts. If the entrees being served are cooked or baked, you can use your hand measurements as a reference. If you ball your hand into a fist, that typically equates to the appropriate size of a serving you should have.

     

    5. Stick to Your Workout Schedule

    It can be very tempting to skip your workouts during the holidays. After all, you’re supposed to be enjoying yourself and time with loved ones. It’ll only be a few missed days right? Keep in mind, it only takes a few days to lose momentum and motivation.

    So make the effort to keep working out! You don’t necessarily have to workout the same way or with the same intensity as normal, but do something, even if it’s just a walk around the neighborhood or some light stretches. You’ll burn off those extra holiday meal calories and retain your mindset which will help you stay on track.

     

    Remember ladies, plan ahead and be consistent; you’ll be free to enjoy your favorite holiday treats without the guilt and consequences. Have a Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year!

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  • In today’s society, there is a lot of focus on our physical health. How many magazines have you seen in the checkout line touting a new diet or exercise program to get your best body or obtain optimal physical health? Yet, when was the last time you saw a magazine headline that tackled mental health? […]

    Mental Health Matters

    In today’s society, there is a lot of focus on our physical health. How many magazines have you seen in the checkout line touting a new diet or exercise program to get your best body or obtain optimal physical health? Yet, when was the last time you saw a magazine headline that tackled mental health? Crickets, right? The fact is that our minds require just as much attention as our physical bodies. Just as with the physical body, failure to care for our minds will lead to their decline.

     

    Why is Mental Health Important?

    Poor mental health is destructive. The Bible says in Proverbs 4:23, “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flows the springs of life.” While physically the heart and the mind (brain) are two separate organs, spiritually we recognize that our hearts and our minds are congruent. This means the Bible is literally telling us that life flows from our minds. So if we allow our minds to become polluted with stress, anxiety, depression, negative thinking, or other elements that drain us mentally, we turn our minds into a spring of death versus a spring of life.

    Poor mental health is distracting. As someone who has battled with depression and anxiety, I am here to tell you that a mind that is not cared for is a mind completely consumed by negativity. When your mental health is declining, you are so absorbed by what is going on in your head that you cannot adequately focus your attention on the things and people that really matter. At the peak of my depression, every single thing I did was clouded by the turmoil going on in my head. I viewed everything from a negative lens because my mind was consumed with negativity. It wasn’t until I healed what was happening in my mind that I was able to function according to God’s design. For me, the healing was both mental, emotional and spiritual. I found comfort by talking to a trusted friend about what I was feeling. I also found myself hungry to read God’s Word and found scriptures that revealed to me how much God truly loved me and how He was there to carry my burdens and provide me the peace I wanted. Once I was able to walk in that emotional freedom and spiritual understanding, I was able to get back to my God-given purpose and reconnect with family and friends.

    Poor mental health is not God’s design. In 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, the Bible refers to our bodies as temples of the Holy Spirit and we are commanded to honor God with our bodies. In case you didn’t realize it, your mind is a part of your body. How then can we fully obey the command to honor God with our bodies if we allow a part of our body to deteriorate? We were created in God’s image and in His likeness for His purpose and for His glory. Thus, it is our responsibility to do what we can to keep His temple intact.

     

    How Can I Improve/Maintain My Mental Health?

    There is no one size fits all solution for improving or maintaining mental health. The mind of every person is unique, thus the mental maintenance we do will vary from person to person. The most important thing is that we all do something consistently to guard our minds and keep our mental health in tact. Below are a few suggestions for ways to improve and maintain positive mental health:

    • Watch What You Watch: The things that we watch and listen to can greatly impact our mental health. That reality tv show or that song with a few curse words may seem harmless, but the spirit and message attached to it can still seep into your head and alter the way you think or perceive situations for the negative.  

     

    • JournalingIt can be very healthy to have a place where we can release our thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment. In my life, journaling has been a powerful mental health tool because I get to purge negative emotions and leave them there on the pages of my journal versus carrying them inside of me and allowing them to fester.

     

    • Positive People: The people we surround ourselves with can either make us or break us mentally. It is important to have friends and family in your inner circle that you can talk to honestly and openly about how you feel. It is also important to make sure your inner circle can encourage you and speak life into you when you feel the stress of life wearing on you mentally.

     

    • Find Balance: There is a lot going on in the world right now. Between what we see on the news and what we experience in our everyday lives, it can all just be a lot to handle. You can easily become discouraged and hopeless if all you see, hear, and experience is negative. It is okay to turn off the news. It is okay to decline an event invite. It is okay to tell people ‘No.’ There is no way we can be our best selves for others if we don’t give ourselves permission to regroup and reset mentally.

     

    • Read the Word/Pray: Ultimately, God’s Word is the best way to guard our minds and hearts. His Word holds the truth that can combat the lies and attacks of the enemy on our minds.

     

    • Seek Professional Help: There seems to be a stigma in the Christian community regarding seeking professional help for mental health issues. Why is it okay to seek professional help when our physical bodies are hurting but not when our minds are hurting? We’ve heard the comforting phrases about God being able to fix it, and they aren’t wrong. God absolutely can heal our hearts and minds. However, many of us fail to realize that oftentimes God heals and helps us by offering tools and resources for us to take advantage of. There is no shame in seeking help to assist you in being your best self. So get the help you need if you find you are unable to manage on your own.

     

    Taking care of our mental health is essential to our overall wellness. What good is a healthy body if the driving force of that body (the mind) is weak and unable to function. Romans 12:2  reminds us that it is by the renewing of our minds that enable us to be transformed. So renew and refuel your mind consistently so that you can walk in the transformative power of God.

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